Preparing Inside – Part 1
So, now we’ve made an entry to your living room—your place of peace, a room that your family watches home movies or football games, where you talk about life in general, and where you hang out. And now, this criminal is in your house.
Now, it’s easy to think that he would try to go with the TV first, right?
I have this great high-dollar TV, maybe spent a lot of money at Costco or Best Buy. Now, that’s what he wants.
What were we talking about earlier?
It usually takes 2 people or so to carry a TV out.
This guy is going to hit the house fast. Well, if he’s going to hit fast, he wants something he can move himself. That’s going to be jewelry or cash. [It’s] probably something that he can pocket in a jacket pocket or a small backpack. And then roll out to meet that car up front.
Usually, that’s kept in the bedroom, right?
Now, think about it. What do you have in your bedroom?
Okay, we’re going to get to that, but right now we are talking about the living room. What have you got laying around that he can take?
So, we’ve just left the living room and now we’re in this hallway. You see how tight this is? These are the things you need to consider. You don’t really have a lot of room to maneuver in here.
Now, [there are] a lot of times 2 grown men in a tight hallway like this have to get to the wall by sucking it up and thinking thin to get by. And it would forbid carrying anything, right? So, one of you has to stop and let the other one pass.
Well, think what a criminal is going to think about. He’s coming in from that living room. What happens if you come home and you meet?
Both of you have 2 decisions to make—does he leave or do you leave?
Now, in a perfect world, you want to get out of there. But, what if you have your 13 year old or 14 year old upstairs, doing homework while you ran to the grocery store because you needed something for dinner?
This type of confined space is what a lot of guys make a lot of money—trying to train you on how to do some type of Muay Thai fighting and hand-to-hand Krav Maga stuff. So, unless you spent several years doing hand-to-hand and learning body blocks in shots like that, you only have one option…
You better get crazy.
You better bring everything you’ve got to that fight; because he may not let you out.
[These are] things to think about for you all with tight spaces like this. What are you going to do? Think about it.
In a perfect world, I want to get out, right? I don’t want to get into [a fight] with this guy. But, there may be scenarios where you don’t have a choice. And maybe you’re the type of person who doesn’t want to carry a pistol, who doesn’t want to do a concealed carry.
Or maybe you’re that concealed-carry guy who only carries his gun when he’s going to the bad part of town, right? That’s when you carry, right?
When you’re going to the bad part of town or maybe when you have to run out somewhere at night that’s probably when you’re going to need it, right?
So, think about that.
So, now you’re a Las Vegas gambler. You’ve figured out all the procedures and odds, right? And you’re only going to do [it] when it’s advantageous to the environment and when you feel comfortable.
How nice would it be to come in, see a bad guy there, and [you] know that your 13 or 14 years old child is upstairs doing homework. When he makes a move towards you, you have your pistol and you’re able to neutralize that threat.
So, let’s just say you don’t (because quite frankly the majority of you don’t). What do you do?
Well, just like what we’ve talked about earlier, you can die in that place or you can fight. And you don’t have to have Muay Thai fighting skills. You don’t have to be an MMA guy. You just got to have the will, the determination, and the mindset that says
“I’m not going to be a victim.”
Do you know what that guy is thinking that you’re not going to do?
“I shouldn’t go and get crazy on him.”
Now, ladies, let’s be honest with this. We know that you can get a little crazy sometimes, just like we can. But you’ve heard stories of women lifting cars up off their children because of that sudden surge of adrenaline, right?
Okay, when that maternal instinct kicks in, ladies, run with it. He is not expecting you to hit him head on. Now that’s the choice you’ve got to make. I can’t make that decision for you; it depends on the situation.
But if you were my wife, I will tell you to get him as fast as you can. Get him and don’t stop. Get medieval on him—rip anything and everything that you can. I’m talking about the eyes, nose, mouth, ears. All of these senses have to be attacked.
Scream. Get crazy. Get on him.
And here’s the key point: Once you start, you don’t stop.
Because if you were my wife—and that guy decides that today is the day he’s going to get crazy, that he’s coming into my house and violate my sanctuary [and] attack my wife and children—regardless of the consequences, I’ll tell my wife that you go down and swing him; because no one is coming for you.
And that’s a fact.
Call 911. See how long it takes for them to get there. We’re talking about minutes—5, 6, or 7 minutes. And if you live in a major metropolis, it could even be longer.
This is going to go down within less than a minute. And you’re going to have about 45 seconds to neutralize him.
Grab your kids and get out.
And maybe I’m not the only one who told you that. But, I’m talking to you like you’re my wife.
And I know a lot of women out there who had that moment. No one has ever told them that it’s okay. [No one has ever told them] don’t die in place, don’t let this guy get upstairs, and get your children.
Guys, you gotta draw the line on the sand. You can’t expect him to have a moral and ethical boundary which he won’t cross.
Then you look at the news all you want to. You can look at the TV. You can see all these brutal things that are going on, and then say that if it were going to happen to you—God forbid that it ever does.
But should that 12% knock on your door and decide that today is the day where it jumps to 100%, I want you to have the knowledge, the mindset that it takes to overcome evil like that.
Preparing Inside – Part 2
The old stairwell… probably walked up this several [times]—10, 15, or 20 times a day. Never thought about how this could be a funnel, right?
Well, a grown man enters this stairwell, and you’re on the other end. It’s no different than that hallway. You’ve got to make a decision.
Do you retreat or do you engage?
This stairwell is confined as it is. I have a headboard, walls, rail, [and] wooden steps. You’ve got to be able to get out of this as quickly as you can; because it’s not going to be good for either one of you two.
So, think about this…
If you’re moving up the stairs, and should be nothing up there except him and your master bedroom, you’ve pretty much got an easy decision to make.
Turn around. Go out the front door. Go to the neighbor’s house and call 911.
Well, let’s talk about this. If you’re in the stairwell at home and its night, you’ve heard a noise and you start to move down the stairwell, and you find a guy right there, what do you do then?
Well, you can retreat. Go right back up in there and lock yourself in your bedroom. If you need to gather the kids, you can gather the kids.
But, if things get that unfortunate that the guy chases you up the stairs, you’ve got to draw your line on the sand.Because if my kids are up there sleeping, I’m not going to let anything happen to them.
And you fellas out there, this is just what kills me. You guys think that it’s going to happen when you’re at home, right? When you’re sleeping in your bed, you’re going to hear that noise down there, right?
Well, if that was the case, you probably already know what you’re going to do, right? You’ve already thought this out. Have you talked to your wife about that? Have you talked to her about her response, if ever you’re not home? Let’s talk about that for a moment.
So, for whatever reason, you’ve decided to come down to your stairwell. Maybe you’ve heard some glass break. Or maybe you’ve heard a bump in the night that gave you the willies, and you want to come check it out.
And standing there at the bottom of the stairs is that animalistic, evil individual, who has decided that he’s going to take what he wants, when he wants, and how he wants.
So, maybe this is at night. Maybe you were sleeping soundly while your children were all upstairs when you heard that.
So, here’s the thought from the people (mainly women) that I’ve talked with:
“If I encounter somebody in the stairwell, should I turn around, run, grab my kids, go to my bedroom, lock the door, get behind the bed or lock myself in a closet, and call 911?”
Well, there are not many steps here. When a grown man takes off running, he’s probably going to get to you before you get outside that hallway up there. So, this is something we need to think about you all. This is serious.
What are you going to do? Are you going to turn and run?
What I’m suggesting is that, within your moral and ethical boundary, you need to draw a line on the sand. Somewhere… listen to what I’m telling you.
You have to decide that you’ll defend what is yours.
You can’t expect that someone will come and rescue you; because police times are just not what they need to be.
So, you may be thinking, “Well, EJ, I really don’t see any way out of this.”
This is not good situation, in whatever way you put it. It’s a very BAD situation. But, I think, because you’re there watching me right now, you have a “desire” for that not to happen to you.
And so what I’m telling you—husband, wife, college student, or that great bingo player—is decide what you will and will not do.
And what you will do, do it—do it hard. Do it fast. Be committed. There is no way to run in a stairwell except back.
Alright, I hate stairwells. And from a tactical standpoint, stairwells are extremely dangerous. Now, in the military, we take guys at 7, 8, or 9 at a time. We also work a hallway. We’ll have guys going to the right and going to the left, guys looking up and guys looking forward, and guys taking corners.
Now, unless you’ve just suddenly joined some special operation unit that I don’t know about, it’s probably just going to be you and your husband or wife.
What do you do?
First of all, you try not to get into the stairwell. If you recognize a threat, that will allow you to give distance between you and that threat, which equals time. And time equals life.
So, in the military, we call it a “time is life” situation—the more time you can give to yourself, the longer you probably going to stay alive.
So, instead of blindly rounding the stairwell, if something goes crash in the night, and you just can’t fight it, you have to come and look. How about you round that stairwell and take a peek before you start coming down on it.
Again, “time is life.”
So, here we are at the master bedroom. We talked about this earlier. [This] is where the jewelry is kept. This is where the cash hoards are kept. This is where a lot of weapons are kept.
So, a burglar, an individual who wants to come into your home—takes what he wants, when he wants, and how he wants—already knows this.
So, he’s going to bypass a lot of things lying around downstairs to get to here.
Now, we talked earlier about the daylight guys and the night time guys. The daylight guys—they want that TV. They want the microwave. They want the video camera that’s sitting around. They want the iPads [and] the iPods. That stuff they can liquidate really quickly, get some good cash for it, and then they roll out, right?
The nighttime guy gets off on watching people suffer while he takes what he wants to take.
He’s coming here. Are you ready?
So, let’s get into a scenario; because this is the typical scenario that I hear about.
Husband: “Oh, whatever. You’re fine. That’s nothing.”
Crash! Bang! Boom! (Noises downstairs)
Husband: “Oh man, you’re right. Stay here. I’ll check it out.”
How many times have you often played this scenario in your head?
You may have already done it twice, three times, four times, [but] only to find out that it was just the dog or it was just somebody coming home late one night, out drinking or whatever.
And it worked out okay for you. But, if you know THAT guy is coming…
You leave this bed. Your 13 year-old is sleeping next door. Your 8 year-old is down the hallway. You round that corner, and there he is in your stairwell.
Did you take anything with you?
Did you call 911?
What are you doing?
Now, I’ll tell you what’s going to happen.
The autonomic nervous system is going to kick in. You’re going to have a fight-or-flight moment. You are going to lose all your manual dexterity. You’re going to have a surge of adrenaline. You will not be able to do this with your fingers. You will get what we call “caveman hands.”
Your vision will lock to tunnel vision. And you will either jet out or run back through the door.
“Honey, honey, honey, call 911. There’s someone here.”
[You] close the door. Once that surge of adrenaline passes, and then you get the next kick, you realize…
“Oh my gosh, the kids are right there!”
What is mama thinking about? The kids.
You think you can stop your wife from jumping out this bed (and from running) to stay with the kids? It’s not happening.
So, I’ve talked to you about making a decision—drawing a line on the sand. That guy has made his decision.He has already eaten. He has drunk. He’s dressed. He’s wide awake.
He has probably texted his buddies while you’re sleeping—“I can’t wait to do this! This is going to be awesome! I’m all pumped up and jacked up and ready to go.”
So, without a plan, without a rehearsed plan, you think you’re going to get up groggy in your Pj’s and duke it out mano-a-mano with this guy. Or maybe [you’re thinking] “I’ll just grab my trusty old .45, and I’ll take care of him.”
But I hope that works out for you. I really do.
There are a whole lot of other considerations that go with the “just whippin’ out the old 45” or the “old grandpa” shotgun. Maybe you’ve bought a new assault rifle, and you’re going to use that in home defense. Now, you’re going to bring that to the fight.
There are a lot of things to consider, [like] do you have training for that? Do you know how to manipulate that weapon when something malfunctions? Because what’s going to happen is that the minute you have an issue, he’s going to get close and destroy you.
There are a lot of unfortunate things that go on in this world. This is an unfortunate reality…
As you lay here in this bed—as you’ve done many, many nights before—where you have pillow talks with your wife, where you’ve discussed personal matters (or may even shed a tear together), you’re going to leave this without a plan. And you’re going to take on a violent criminal.
You need to get your mind right. You need to rethink this and develop a plan. This bedroom leaves nowhere for you to go, as should he entrance into this bedroom. Your line on the sand has already been crossed.
Decide today what you’re going to do. Are you going to get proficient in some type of firearm? Or maybe you’re going to learn hand-to-hand combat? Maybe you’re one of those guys who go and learn how to do knife fighting?
Okay, how many times have you heard a scenario where you shouldn’t bring a knife to a gunfight? Well, we all know that works out.
If time is life, give yourself time. A plan will give you the time.
Don’t lay in bed tonight and wait for somebody else to set up a plan for you. It won’t happen. How many times have you rolled out the side of the bed? How many times have you moved outside that door with nothing happening? Complacency starts to build up.
Guys, what we’re trying to do here is we’re trying to save a life. You know we’ve got pictures of our loved ones here beside our bed. We will do anything to save them. And most of us would lay out our life for them.
It doesn’t have to come to that, if you have the right training, if you’ll develop a plan, if you’ll talk with your family about it. And then when the time comes to act, act. Get out there and do something.
Yeah, it’s dangerous; it really is. It’s serious. It’s downright emotional. It’s real emotional, guys. It’s going to be emotional [when you’re] standing over a coffin. It will be even more emotional if you survive—living with yourself and playing the “what if” game.
“What if I’ve just done this?”
“What if I’ve just done that?”
See, that criminal has already thought about what he’s going to do. He’s already planned it out.
Where are you at?
Alright, I’ve already thrown a lot at you about mindset. But, it’s very important that you understand what you’re dealing with. You know, we on the military side (the tactical side) have groups of guys who do nothing but study the mindset of the enemy.
There’s nobody there doing that for you. The modern-day criminal… you’re just hearing about what happens after the act.
So, I think it’s important that we shed some light on what they’re thinking, what they’re willing to do, and how that relates to the plan you’ll enact.
Be safe out there.